Friday, December 28, 2012

Gender Bias ??

Well living with this free mentality from so long and treated as equal till now by my family and friends, its now that I know it was my good luck. To have got such a good family culture. For I have seen so many families with girls treated as well what shall I say? Lesser. 

In my childhood I was very much offended when anyone used to tell that its the boy of the family who is of any assistance to the family and can bring name, fame and honor,  when he grows up. Girls are meant to go to other homes, they are 'paraya dhan' or something. I hated this word. Well I decided from long, I would learn much, will earn much, would create difference and make my parents proud and would be capable of helping them in old age and would prove everyone that their perception is wrong. Girl's are equally competent and of help to their parents. But then I saw its not one case, its the plague of our entire societal thread.

Forget about the vast majority of women who are not given opportunity of education and earning livelihood, who are repeatedly a victim of domestic violence, who have only their bearing capacity to drive them through the life of dependent assaulted neglected being. Its impossible to mention the  plight of women in India- across all the strata- only the form differs but its very much existent and prevalent. They are secondary by the Patriarchical society, an entity whose voice doesn't matters, whose duty is to do everything and keep their mouth shut. We have heard of cases where tribal or rural women are gang raped by the decision body as an act of vindication. They are horrible facets. But not even middle and upper classes are free from this bias. Daily sexual abuses on the roads and offices is a norm than an exception. But these cases only bring shame to the girl's family, hence never reported. Even if it is, justice will take  centuries to come. So nobody bothers to waste their time but bear and try to forget and protect them from the world.

I don't say situation is not better than before. Ofcourse it is that's why I can write this without worrying about the reaction. The education for girls has definitely improved. They are working more than before and almost all kinds of role you find a few girls. They have managed to have their presence felt and at times even appreciated by one and all in clear terms, despite all the hinderances. That's the reason we can breathe, hear, and feel free and be hopeful. But its the end of it. All the girls learn the tips to carry through in the society without being noticed or being targeted to well let's say evil things. The tips don't ensure your safety and well-being but they definitely help and are bare minimum requirement to follow before you step out. Its not written as guidelines but from mother to daughter or from friends and common understanding its passed and followed and propagated.  All working girls carry sole responsibility of managing day to day chores. Even while working equally hard at jobs. They have to bear with the opinions of so many who feel "house should not be neglected" even though you leave your career mid-way. Sometimes I think two working hands earn more, that's the major motivation that they are allowed to work in most of the home's.  Still before stepping out of home, you need to ensure you are with some big group or male to be protected from so called eve-teasing.  The form of which is beyond teasing ofcourse. You have to bear with silly remarks and perceptions thrown at you every now and then. And in the face of it too you need to shun your outspokenness, as in don't go and argue with them, it won't do any good and you might land in trouble, you see.

I wonder how many boys are broad minded enough to lend a helping hand to their wife on daily basis, let her grow in her career, stand for her with his family and society. Help her in house keeping and plan life together, take decisions actually with her opinion as well, won't try to control how she spends money she earns, would be understanding that her family is still hers and she can belong to both without contention and prioritizing , respect her as a equal human  and live life as equals. I don't think there are many. So who is to blame? The educated girls, their mothers, the educated boys, his parents or the society? Decide and tell.Its not an individual, its a collective perception. I am sure there would be many exceptions, but rule is Indian society still promotes and lives in a biased environment. Educated girls are just a way of pretending we are so open -minded and have equal opportunities. You see the " statistics of promotions, how many girls are not given equal opportunities of growth in jobs,  you see how many girls take jobs too lesser than their competence so that they can full time do their homely duties", how many ultra successful ladies, leave their career midway to look after the kid or if the husband is not comfortable with them working and call it a compromise, worth it", or   why? Ofcourse that's their primary role. Rest is just for fanning their whims. There is no such term as individualism for girls, you see. They are to be in some role and portray it as expected  (read stereotype) and being done from generations. You would wonder how many people will label me anti-Indian culture ideals, for writing this. To all those claimants I have more essence of Indian culture in me than you would ever care to learn and incorporate. What you carry in the name of culture is the stale part handed down to you with all the inhuman elements  crept in its deteriorating phase from generations.


Oh few of the elite of you create hue and cry, if a well educated girl takes to her so called duties of "being in the kitchen" and "taking care of the household",  "sacrificing her career as per her husband's changing cities". Well let me tell you the other side of the story, of why girls, the educated girls too give in. Because if they cling on to the things they want to do in life, in their career and hobbies , what they visualize as living life. It is interpreted  as "not available for full time home care".  The outspokenness won't give them  easy ride, in Indian society . Each girl has to learn all the homely girlishness. Learn to think her career can go to hell. An average job is the best shot,  no job related ambitions and no dreams of creating difference, should now be entertained.  Her wishes should take back burner and she should readily compromise on all fronts. In short leave all your wishes to be labelled "an ideal girl for Indian marriage market". And ofcourse marriage is a full stop of life for most of the educated girls as well. It is not because of cowardice, its because of need to keep all tension free and happy and the faith on our self that maybe we can fit in, if we try real hard. The easiest solution.

I feel really terrible of this custom that the girl side  needs to give dowry to the guys, or call them gift's because its our culture. Forget about happiness, wish, need just because Some guy is marrying a girl, her parents need to invest most of their savings in the marriage ceremony. Ofcourse even if she is equally qualified and  can earn equal to anyone or even if she is way better than the guy she is marrying. Is she been sold or something, good riddance and its the greatness of guy to keep her for rest of her life, isn't marriage supposed to be two people starting their life together ?Isn't it something which has to do with love, care, respect, equality for them both, with the blessings of all ? Then where in comes this money business. But then how does it matters. All wanna put a blind eye for what it stands. And we all love the celebrations and lavishness associated with weddings, don't we. So lets leave it at that. Then there are n number of  stupid covers for this so called "The big fat Indian Wedding" custom.

Though I know I might have painted this worse than what it is. But see its my perception from what I have seen all around, statistically more prevalent, almost a norm .Just like corruption is reality for us today, its everywhere, we go and shout slogans, hold a candle march and next day get the slip of bills required forged and pink slip for attendance made from some doctor friend. And get the tenders and orders and promotions and jobs by money under the table. Likewise Bias towards girls is reality of Indian society, you dig whichever strata and whatever realms its there and in varied forms. Sugar coated,  often in gentle words, in the name of respect for girls as devi's or something, but it still stands intact. I am yet to meet a guy who has never told me girls are dumb, as if guys are all very smart,  as if dumbness has anything to do with gender. And then their are many who quote Manu with all those "ill- habits" of girls like they are talkative, can't keep a secret, etc etc. as if these are traits specific to girls. I wonder who the hell Manu was and who the hell are his brainless followers. Why don't  you do a proper survey and get the facts and then talk. But this shit talk seems so funny to them and they take so much pride of all this information.

Well its basically raw data, with bias of generations in it, its definitely no information as its useless blabber. And they keep pouring it every now and then. Having been with so many boys of my age and always finding myself better than most of them, it really seems to me, to be some kind of talk to please themselves by the incompetent. But lets leave my "feminist self" to myself.

The virtue and vices are found in all humans, atleast nature has no bias.. I have seen guys stupid, talkative, jerks and what not...but then generalization would be absurdity.  And all have some great traits as well, you turn a blind eye to good and generalize the few traits of some. Foolish will be foolish no matter which gender you belong to. But I would be really pleased to see a real equality based Indian society. Just that its not just boys, or uncles or Aunties, its girls like us who give in their stands, to follow the line, to please their Parents, who are equally responsible. So any change needs to happen at all ends.

Monday, December 24, 2012

beauty for its sake..

whats most rich -- the flowers..
whats most beautiful- the butterflies
which is the best charm-- river across the mountain
where in lies the solace -- in the green wilderness
whats hope - the autumn, whats joy - the spring
then why we run after plastic commodities
why the gadgets and gizmos rule the world
why the chirp of birds is left unheeded/unheard
why there is unrest all over

we are not after beauty and elegance
we are not after peace and solace
than why this war, what for
is it for minerals and land?
is it for capturing the terrain
why on earth u wanna die
to be called a mighty warrior
and leave behind a trace of land
colored with human blood

why u can't think of life in its terms
why u need to build huge castles
to appreciate its worth..
is it most wonderful - living in a cage
or is it amazing walking in green moorland

I can't think of anything but bliss
when it comes to the life
its like most complex yet elegant presence
but see the setup we have built
trapping the souls in discontent, in unrest
running in a race, with no clear end
no purpose, no motivation
than the  flimsy achievements n goals

Ah sacred life, what mockery it must be
to have given the greatest gift
and seen it rot, for far lesser things..
you must be pained, to see your creation
so senseless and demonic in its traits
oh creation for your own sake
be content with few who portray thy beauty
for rest of the lot, its a black hole
with no sight in and no way out
a trap perennial to uphold


Saturday, December 22, 2012

Professionalism...

The word called Professional and the world of professionals
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Well to me Professional always evokes something which has to do away with your own self, accommodate a demanding schedule or maybe redundant and boring  schedule, be emotionless and unnecessarily sincere and showy, only to ensure a fairly decent pay at the end of the day, but your learning curtailed with each passing day. I worked in a technical firm for about two years - few months of wondering in yonder, and i had the experience of real well established firms and the starters with their eyes set on gains and there job only to squeeze u to do the work for the smallest possible fees and yet they want to derail the payment as long as they can . Well ofcourse Institutional establishments are preferred, but I wonder was I the only one, who felt doing stupid time taking jobs and going foolish with each passing day? I doubt as maybe nobody will word the feeling as I do, but all remain dissatisfied and then they say its very difficult to go back to the academics after working for so long, we have lost our ability to focus and read. See what is it if not going foolish in a way. Anyways I don't want to portray people getting foolish and foolish at one side and actually paid heftier for that ..and on the other hand people learning and getting smarter and smarter but what to say getting less preferred for employments,  in search of better words. But what I mean is self comparison, had I been doing what I know I can - given the tasks accordingly - a mix of goals and making things happen, instead of doing the same, often well documented yet not understood work with long hectic time involved, again and again  for years; if u can be involved in new roles - made to learn and understand and hired to make it better, wouldn't it be a better way to live. You can see what you could decipher, explain and understand in course of time . You being a better you, with the passing time.

Well ofcourse I am not a promoter of job maniac mentality so well spread in India, yet I am almost to take a job again " to earn some easy money" and strangely  "you are valued if you are working in some hi-fi firm" as per public opinion, the criteria being the multi-million turnover business MNC's .
I know back again I would be hating the job within two years of starting it, that's the time when I would quit- and the difference this time would be - I'll quit with some savings to start my own business. Oh by business I don't mean hard-core selling, retailing and brokerage kind of business; its all social smartness and too inartistic for my perception of fanciful oops ideal oops dreamy life. Ofcourse we all live a dream , but to have "dream come true" means a single day for most, when we have achieved some goal. It can be as weird as " clearing an exam", "getting first salary" , "purchasing the dream car" etc. etc...But if you are at dreaming, why not dream a continuum, dream of an existence that will be so very like, you want to live each day ..that way u won't feel like a secluded fool for years to turn up as smartest human on earth on one single day, only to be put into dearth again in some new setup. Till u formulate and attain some other so called goal.

This job race is one such trap, apparently for me,  I can't visualize a better description of it, maybe due to absence of its existence or maybe mine blindfoldedness. Either way "I stick by my theory till I have fairly good reasons/intuition to change it". 

So what happens to the millions of Indian youth who go out each year from 'PROFESSIONAL COLLEGES' into the so called, realm of Software/IT companies and their families assume "now they can live happily - ever after".  Why, ofcourse we struggled so hard, to facilitate their education and entry into Professional college and then payed the hefty college fees for years and supported them ( U know the competition in India - for 5000 seats 5 lakh people appear in the exam). Then we have to sent the kid for coaching ( which takes out all the blood in our vein- but then it is necessary, after all we want to be good parents - we want to facilitate our kid's bright future; why he is the smartest kid on earth; we still remember how he used to show his smartness since childhood).

Anyways I am not into the Indian parents attitude today, neither do I doubt, that its so very practical and working in this day's India ; but I wonder sometimes if my parents would not have put me into a professional college, for that matter all of us, into a professional college, what would I be doing today? Would I have learnt MSC physics or M Phil English - I would have struggled to get job of a teacher and my father would have faced so much trouble to find a fancy bridegroom. Well their tension is little less now because I am in the rat race, and I managed to pass through it. Thanks for the years of efforts of all. Anyways even this is not the point.

The point was altogether different, it was what next after you have won the rat race and are running in it for quite sometime, say more than a year - approaching say few years, I have few friends who have finally come to terms with their state, the hope and possibility of changing company and places keeps them going, they are now three years experience lot, quite a senior engineer kind of status and people( read freshies/kids) consult them for so minute works. Sometimes it irks to see them struggle with something so obvious, but ofcourse they don't have years of work to backup and boost their confidence. So where was I - yeah "Job security"  that's the word.

The security that you'll keep getting some xyz Rs in your account every month, keeps them going , it pays the bills, keeps the parents happy and tension-less and gives them power to buy the fancy stuff that's so very unnecessary yet seen as a status symbol everywhere and ultimately your exterior look only matters ( to others) and when were you concerned about your true inner happiness anyways?, to make any difference today.  Ofcourse you feel so proud of yourself telling about the company you worked for, the college you graduated from and the hefty package you are drawing and the raise you are expecting soon. Your boss is a moron, otherwise rest is great; ofcourse your colleagues dwell into stupid bickering but then " it is a part and parcel of corporate world" .You are not there to make friends, are you?. God help you, if you are.

And while you are working, better be a smart ass, otherwise for your so long work others will get the promotion and recognition because of smart tongue and the stealing presentation aptitude, they have mastered the art of.    I used to wonder sometimes, in between my anger slots and cursing, that doesn't it feels wrong to present somebody's else work and toil, as yours and get promotion on the basis of it. Ofcourse till then I used to believe people want to work to check their capabilities to prove the worth of their existence to themselves, what I mean is for self satisfaction , but then I saw something, people who do this are smart ass. they don't waste time in redundant monotonic or time taking work , and they believe they are so much more smarter then you, that they deserve the credit of the work you do, ofcourse I donno the other logics and reasons but I think they take it almost as the most natural thing on earth, their birthright or something.

"Right without deserving or action " condemnation comes from those tongues who live by the philosophy, "they have to justify their existence by their work" . But there is another lot on earth
" The Damads" as I call them . Who feel the world is theirs, every resource and opportunity is theirs, they are the masters to rule the slaves ( " read the believer of action / the doers") But for that to happen they have to manipulate and be secretive but its in the good of all. You see they are the kings of the world... I don't hate them now that not just because I am out of the game and don't give a damn, but also because I have realized how stupid the "The Damads" will be all their life, "in person" that even to think of them, would be devaluing your own self..they are, I donno, maybe moulded some what differently but as we all have a perfect chain of thought  and beliefs and a code of conduct and way of life, so much emulated within ourselves .. that to change or feel betrayed or cheated would be the worst thing you can do to yourself. But take it as you are here for better things, create something and continually learn and evolve that's the essence you live for. Let other's manage the trite work and stay happy in it. You have altogether different wiring and your value system is what you should live by.

In short "achieve your own perfection and beautiful life"; don't try to mimic others or even let anyone decide/define or pave the way to tread to your goal. Your goal is only your make, rest all is immaterial to you, accept it and let it this way.

Ahh I always come on this preachy note at the end, as if I am some "old buddhi daady" so very versed with the ways of the world, which I am not , its all old mess up's, I have sorted out/justified in the long run.  Haa its funny when life is happening to me " I feel so directionless..everything just happens and I make local decisions" - but toward the end - I always have a theory and pattern of analysis available with me. I don't know what they call these kind of things but I am sure some sort of broad or larger picture people kind of word must suit me.  Just that I also happen to have local goals ,which vary so fast and I am clueless most of the time why on the face of earth "i can't stick to one job and work and be perfect in it" Maybe dabbler that I am, I get bored too easily with routine. But then I guess this doesn't fits the definition of "Professional" but then who wants to be a professional, not I. So I prefer to label myself as "artist". Not Professional artist but artist, driven by self,  and doing fabulous things by the internal motivation and turmoils.

I will sometime ask papa " what it feels to live a lifetime" in a job; how does it affects and grows you; what u feel amiss and what u feel gained; what according to u is life's aim" . Maybe after his retirement else he might just ignore me to have gone mad ...Haha funny that I actually relish thinking
I am some kind of mad/freak - maybe the kiddish rebellion to the norms is still somewhere in me. But I think its not to show or prove any point " its just I like the idea of living a random life' not having to abide by some regular curriculum . The end result of perfection or greatness is not so much  motivating for me. I just want this day to leave so much new and exciting gyan and experience. What would happen ten years later we will see.

Dabbler am I, truly I think. But I understand what will happen to the world " if everybody goes stupid like me" . There's this term called responsibility. Devoid of this the threads of society will break. And I know that its this responsibility that drives most of the people all over. Family to provide for,  prestige in community, money to help all and live upto parents expectation of "having raised an awesome child". Trapped in these goals, u never get time to roam around and try out a banjara life...and at the end of the day " u actually become so much perfect in the work u do, that u start relishing it'. So that's the way it is.  And this kiddish phase will pass from me as well, but I m sad thinking of that. Anyways maybe there's a better view of the other life than what i attribute to it. And u can always get a perfect  mix -- khichdi our so very favorite. And that we can always manage I believe a khichdi of routine and Professionalism and your dabbling instincts...' For one u fulfill all your said roles and yet u live upto randomness and dabble in all art and sciences around.

I wonder how would the people before the gyan era dawned in - made choices, was there also these kinds of "social conduct" and responsibilities to bear, family to keep and manage and emotional upheavals or they were so concerned with jungle and gathering food that nothing else mattered. Ofcourse it should have after having meal and settling down for evening snacks what would they be discussing "the strategy to get another meal; the dwindling count of easy prey in the jungle;
the predators crossing the boundaries and howling in night" "the safety of women and children" ; "sheltering from the rains next autumn" . Isn't it?  Is it so very different? Then there would be some who would be after the " so very good looking fruit,  gathered from the jungle far away by someone in the creed" and to get it easily and freely, they would put up a emotional show " of love and respect and need and favor and promise to return it in their turn" and snatch the fruit and eat and relish it themselves. Then their would be some sages " gathering and working for the entire community" and being the first one to sacrifice themselves" for ofcourse their idea of purpose of life, is to be of use to the community. They don't fear life and death u see. They are the true fearless, awesome warriors- how great that feeling is!! What else do u want in life?? Then their would be discoverers - u know if u tread along the canal and go upto 15km u will find a cave in which the tiger lives.. ahh really u found it, great ..!! See if u mix these two " u won't feel pain and your wound will be quickly healed" oh ur a genius..aren't u..!! The adventurers " today I fought a whole sena of insects they flew after me when I took the honey and i managed to escape them so narrowly it was so much fun..ahh u live one amazing life ...don't u!!  Then their would be one baby sitter " who would take care of all the babies and would love that " ahh aren't they wonderful - see they can move their hands now" ohh i just love taking care of them....All with different attitude and aptitude and sense of purpose and meaning and role in life...

Who say's we are way more civilized? Its just the same setup with changed surroundings...   

living an aberration..

the clouds of doubt
linger high
they want to settle
if I am good enough
then only they will subside
good enough in my pursuits
good enough in what i do

the clouds lingering overhead
with strange emotions n quest
validating a point
measuring the turmoil
standing besides in dearth
else feeling the sky's heights
larger than life on earth

ahh why it has to be decisive
why u want the traits to be inherent
when u r whatever u learn
y not wish and achieve
why not learn n grow
y keep measuring the length
to satisfy your ego

why u need to compare
ur existence with others
y not just go ahead
and do what u love

sheer emotional fools
devising such fancy  loops
to be lost in this world
n then wonder
what am i doing here
as ofcourse u r wasting time
u r making yourself an aberration

hiding behind doubts
all your life
trying to be something
u r not..

to kill a mockingbird..

to kill a mocking brid -- that's one movie which i should have watched way back, it was the thought when i started watching it today.  Well midway the plot, when the three kids are on there secretive missions prompted by there need to be brave and solve the mysterious,  i remembered my bro and missed our childhood and growing up. The protective stance of the children scout and jem for their father - in front of the whole community dead against, was remarkably portrayed and yet at the end when the mysterious neighbor Boo is brought into picture it all sums up "the if you have the gun and the wish to make a kill, don't go for a mockingbird because all she does is sing her heart out for the humans" its just a presence which is pleasing to human community why would anyone try to destroy it. A marvelous movie, very beautifully depicted and captivating plot. Would definitely take up the novel, nothing better then the novel, it will really give the words to what u feel in the movie...

One amazing work of art indeed!!! Not very fanciful or out of the blue but the very nearby ordinary happenings portrayed in true essence..that u feel a part of it all
the way ....

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I donno wassup with me these days, but I saw two movies in last two days and they both have left such a great impression on my mind..that I really need to write out something to prevent being preoccupied all the time. Well one is "The karate Kid" and the other is "To Sir, With Love" .
Well they don't have any correlation to each other accept that they both are inspiring. They both are legendary, if a creation, a thought, the work and implementation can be so labelled. Whenever we go to watch a movie we are looking for some kind of take back, which will be a feel good factor, it won't leave a sagging tail that u regret having wasted ur time, it is one of those kind of movies which makes u feel great that u r alive.





Well enough of it. So the movie "To sir with love" is about a young engineering graduate pass-out with no teaching experience, who joins as a teacher in a school where kids of lower, abused strata of society study. Kids whose family itself is so possessed in the clutches of harsh realities and abuse that education and mannerisms take a back burner. The kids give him a hard time as they always give to rest of the teachers till one day he realizes that " they are kids at heart" and are at their rebellion phase The way to teach them to be adult, it makes him innovate and break the barriers of textbooks to reach out and teach them the basics of life, the bare necessary traits to survive in the world outside  and he slowly and gradually transforms them all. And at the end they make him realize, his true role and responsibility as a teacher and he gives away his job offer as an engineer. Well as story it might not seem impressive but as it unfolds it just leaves u spellbound, u feel part of both the students and the teachers role. You debate the righteousness of each action, you critize few acts and yet u wait in anticipation of what will happen next,  what will the reaction..what will lie ahead... You relish each change in students, you live their each rebellious note and their each dream...You appreciate their circumstances and responsibilities yet u wanna shout at their stupidity. Its one amazing movie which is just one of the greatest work ever...




The other one "The Karate Kid" , well I am told there are two versions of it, I mostly saw the newer one in which a child of around 10 moves to Beijing with his mom as she is transferred there. Now comes all kinds of barriers language, new group, rivalry. He gets into lot of trouble with a school group who are trained in karate until he meets a guy, who saves him and trains him to become one of the greatest Karate fighters in the town. Well its not about the kid, its not about the teacher, its not even the Karate or kung fu which attracts and charms and mesmerizes u but its the flow of the story, the dialogues and truths and realizations and the reaction and emotions and the victory of one's faith on one's self,  which are so beautifully portrayed and woven around that makes u feel just awesome at the end...Somewhere after practice lies a satisfaction and peace, no matter what happens..it leaves u with that impression in mind...
oh did i forgot to mention he lands in trouble because of girl at first place and then his fearlessness and perfect sense of priorities and righteousness later. ..nyways njoy the movie..!!

Sunday, December 16, 2012

The Power of institutions/bodies and their influence...

One day last year, a girl came to my room during insti elections, on the day of election itself, I think and started telling me whom to vote for cult or moodi secy. Having already decided i told her so, but she was adament. We the previous committee and Moodi committee know better and we support this xyz guy. He is totally good, he will be the best person. The other guy is not good. Please cast vote for xyz . So on..I wondered what on earth makes her think that an establishment name and standing behind a person can influence me changing my decision to vote for someone they support. That made me think of actual politics and candidates. How some institutions and groups abolish some candidate and urge the members of community or society to boycott someone or vote for someone.

I felt like telling her, to mind her own business. I can decide who is good based on their manifestos and work. I need no body coming and backing somehow to influence me to cast vote. And the biggest irony is she was so assured that they the so called committee has the full credentials to decide what's good for the insti...


Trivial man...

a trivial man, a trivial life, a common man, a common story...a nameless existence, a day to day schedule.. same old story...these terms are not reclusive, they occur so often than not that I wonder to whom do they depict. What notion to form by the word common man?
as those who are well placed in high echelons of power and fame in society are definitely not common i think all eyes are always on them and people discuss their life events more often than their own. The resource-less, the disadvantaged lot of society deprived of bare necessities and striving through their day to day existence as an unknown battle ..is again not common, its the plot where most movies start..a beggar, insignificant being to the don oops most powerful person in society or the change maker, the real difference makers...even there are numerous books, memoirs and stories of them...they are ofcourse not a trivial insignificant day to day being...

then is it the middle one's, not too high not too low, on the societies ladder, is what that term refers to. but how can it be? belonging to this strata of society, i have seen so many of this cadre and so mind blowing differences and approach and existence and so many and varied stories of
them that i wonder who can ever label them as trivial or insignificant or common. They are just so much complex and more than that than to be characterized by the term trivial or common.

So at the end of the day this is not a distinguishing on the basis of have or have not's or a middle ground but its inclusive of all of them or none at all...

yet see how strange stories surface from around us and we are not even aware of them. Daily talking, smiling, laughing faces have so much behind them and so much to narrate that i wonder when did all that happened.!! always laughing, always haughty, always smiling, always nagging, always complaining, always falling in love ..all types of people yet they are not, what u perceive them to be. Noone is given a pill since birth that ok, 'u'll laugh all the time as you are so very happy and will be so always or till eternity". nobody is given the gift of tension, "u will never be satisfied, to nag will be your life. for u will be so much tensions into it that it will matter so much more that you won't understand that why others are so careless or carefree...". No demarcation from the beginning yet all grow up with altogether different characteristic. I wonder...why and how...I wonder "is there even one existence" which is trivial, common and day to day..

You saw that guy and though how stupid of him to always be affirmative and show his teeth. yet next moment you see him with his wife, helping her and handling her in such graceful manner and caring whole-heartedly that you will wonder, how is he so sensible and caring when all so called fancy degrees, knoweth it all's are also jerks.. and again next moment u'll witness a person from same strata yelling and shouting on trivia and u'll feel its so inhumane...

I wonder who is the one and till what extent u can characterize and group and label people. You wanna know people ? see them at their worst and see them at their best, know the facet behind the day to day nitty gritty of life. And you would know, its not common. Listen to the tales they have to tell, listen to their perceptions and the moments they have seen and withstood...and you would know the kind of work someone has done on earth. Its amazing that neither position nor power nor clan nor status or means..nothing can predict what lies ahead for you..its always going to be a mystery
every coming second, every coming place and every person..even the same old persons and same old well known places won't stay same.
It all will keep changing with an indeterminate pace and timings....

There is no commonness of anything, no trivialities, no big giant moments of ultimate change..its all in each thread, it is now in each moment that life exists and lived...strangely, uncommonly, uniquely, with an undecipherable pattern..yet with stories worth narrating ......u don't create one from fancies, just look around and write it down ..its fancier than any imagination.the real day to day happening....

Pursuit of Happiness


Saw pursuit of happiness yesterday. Couldn't help but cry and love the movie ...
n couldn't help thinking what this movie teaches us. You see it was not just a movie
for entertainment  it did had a message to give and convey . I especially liked the
dialogues the hero gives that "I wonder how he put the word pursuit in there"..
n that "don't ever let anyone tell u what u can or can't do son, not even me",
 I mean it was just superb...

The message i took was " run fastest" , "have the keen eyes of finishing ur tasks on ur deadlines" , "don't assign infinite time for any task --- be on it wholly till it is finished",  "have a son to live for- that solves the time wastage phenomenon as den u will be time bound and would be forced to finish tasks on time",  be imaginative and inclusive with ur family members, they can't be expected to understand what u r going through, but preserve them and make them feel in elite world of stories in any situation and endeavor ..as if the life was a  adventour we are into and its the bestest fun that ever could be..."do what u think u can and pursue your ideas of happiness till the end" no matter what happens...because the tougher it gets the better the story of ur life will be when put in words


so its my take back from it, n I want to see it daily....
and I have this feeling every time I'll watch it, I'll discover some other meaning and
theme from it...

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Few good works...to read!!

Few must reads... checklist

Classics
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1)Drayton’s “Battle of Agincourt
2)“Ode to the Virginian Voyage
3)decamaron
4)old curiosity shop -- when u wanna cry :P
5)Doctor foster
6)Hemmingway - Oldmen and the sea
7)Wool soynka - Dance in the forest
8)Salman Rushdie - Horoon and the ... ( children nonsense lit.)
9)Lion and the jewel
10)Kongi's harvest
11)Faerie queen - Spensor(Poet's poet :)
12)Utopia - Thomas Murray
13)Machiavelli - Prince
14) Dawn quixote -
15) Good Earth - Pearl Haresworth or smthg
16)Iliad
17) Aenied
18) Oddyseey
19) Ajamemnom - Asechelus
20) Odypus Rux -
21) Uppanishads
22) Shakespeare - Sonnets
23) Waiting for Godot - Absud Literature/Non-sense Literature.

Science fiction/Others
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1)H.G.Wells - Invisible Man
2) Stream of consciousness - James Joyce
3) Virgina Wolf
4) B'Day party
5) Golden
6) Vanity Fair
7) John Osborne - Look back in Anger
8) Shelagh Delaney and Arnold Wesker
9) Noel Coward and Terence Rattigan

Poem
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1) To his coy Mistress - Andrew Marvell
2) Paradise Lost - John Milton
3) Red red rose - Robert Burns
4) Upon Westminster bridge - Wordsworth
5) Kubla Khan - Coleridge
6) Shelly ( awesum poet) - To a skylark, Ozymandias
7) My last Duchess - Robert Browning
8) W.B.Yeats - Sailing to By
9) Philip Larkin - Church Going

Comedy
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21) Way of the world - Congrev
22) Ladies Coup - feminist work
23) Ralph roister doister - Nicholas Udal (1st comedy written)
24) Gammer gurton needle - John Still
25) As u like it ( Shakespeare)
26) Midsummer night's dream ( Shakespeare)
27) twefth night
29) School of scandals - ( Sheredon)
30) Shoemaker's holiday ( Deckor)
31) Ben Johnson - Alchemist
32) T.S.Eliot - Wasteland
33) Cantebbery Tales-Geoffrey Chaucer
34) Love's labour lost
35) Prothalamion
36) Much ado about something - Shakespeares
37) All for Love

Sattire
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1) Tale of a tub - (Jonnathan Swift)
2) Arms and the man
3) Mrs Warrens Profession
4) Drydon - Absselom and achthitophe
5) Rape of the Lock
6) Dunciad - Pope
7) MacFlecknoe -John Dryden


APJ Abdul Kalam's favorite
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1) Light from the Many Lamps - Lillian Eichler Watson
2) Thirukkal - Thiruvallur
3) Man the Unknown - Dr Alexis Carrel

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Ultimate truth..

there is no truth in world
than doing your job to the best
there is no other achievement
no joy, no bliss, no dreamland..
no other existence
its just how good u do what you are supposed to do
perfection is what its called
not just lie to be wasted away
there are infinite beings for that
trapped and  suffocated
by there own schemes
unaware its nothing
just the perfection for its own sakes

Sunday, October 21, 2012

The Best Novelist ever - "Premchand" ..reality in all its flavor and forms..

Does world remains the same? is it never changing? Does only the stage, the setup , the dialect of dialogues is modified a bit, yet the theme, the structure, the ways remain intact over the span of centuries, over hundreds of years? Seemingly there has been a huge change in society due to the technological devices which have now crowded the world and have made us so dependent that existence without them seems a different reality. Yet how can the world of past, with no higher education, no Open market philosophy, no computers, Google, mail and protocols, can ever be the same as today?

I used to think this world is progressing fast, erring faster, and the path of destruction is the endless senseless exploit of natural resources which will be depleted soon and hence will come the eventual end of this age of earth. Having said that I also imagined it to be a  more advanced, more free world than any other previous ones, more tolerant and one with ample and endless opportunities . But guess what its all a myth we formulate around ourselves when the same drama is all around over all the ages , just the characters change ...

What prompted this - is Premchand's novel . After a really long time I could get enough enthu and courage to read a Novel of Premchand..Starting with "Nirmala" . No wonder he is the greatest novelist ever...Really amazed at the kind of insight in his novels. Seems like its a contemporary plot and we are as helpless to shape the chain of events as the characters in his works. Despite everyone doing the best , in their mind, the situation tends to be the worst ...no action on your part can help.
Even those who tend to take benefit of the situations have a perfectly well defined thought chain behind it..

The thoughts behind evil deeds, the duality, the inevitability of tragedy to those keen of doing everything right.

After Nirmala's tale with its absolute inevitable tragic end, no matter what sacrifice, steps or actions she takes; Rangbhumi is a broader depiction of society and how it runs. Seems like our very own system with the same kind of arguments, emotions still being repeated in the modern context. Absolutely beautiful book. Luving reading it . The facets behind the mask of religion, the varied ways and motivation and reality of devotion. The games played to get someone do your work. It is not one nook, one city, one corner it picturises ; but it is the very portrayal of mixed world we live in..



No novelist has ever written a book ,which is so very realistic, that it seems we are witnessing a world run...with no added pepper, no extra elements to appease any fancies..it captivates your attention to every single detail and page and leaves you with lot to remember. No comparison possible -- the bestest writer I have ever read..

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Deja - Vu of the start..

Strange thing happened today with her, deja vu. Nothing strange in it, you may say. Still it seems strange that to everyone, every single time it happens. Same was with her today, sitting in the lab, out of instinct, chatting in vain, it all converged to the very point of start, in the impressions in mind. And only she realized what had happened. As if a coming back to the very place of start after a long battle of nothingness, of here and there, leading nowhere... So in the childhood she was driven to great hopes by the thought "people are not positive enough", that's the only trouble with India. When she will be grown up, she would have changed it forever with the brilliant magazines and newspapers vibrating with positivity and spreading the hope and joy all over, she will start. She was pretty sure this was the meaning and purpose of her existence, to spread the missing positive thought.  Every morning she used to go through page after page of newspapers and magazines in the hope she will stumble upon something to stimulate great wow element of human life. But Alas the problem lay in the thought of Indians, for they never covered good stories of ray of hope, of joy, of abundance and brilliance. They just painted a gloomy, scary, dull image of one incidence happened five days back in the farthest corner of India. She would change that by the time she is grown up, by the time she is thirty.....

 She would start the magazine that will portray the best all around. It would be all too good as it sounds. Its just the thought and presentation that needed to be changed and the society will see how very beautiful their life was and will emulate..

She was twenty six, she was lost, where did she started from, she had forgotten. Why did she exist, she couldn't answer. Did anybody cared, why does it even matter, she thought. She read no newspapers, all stories sounded the same. Though she was not distressed by what they project. She was lost , somewhere, going everywhere and no where. Society she did not think of now, for its too big, who can change that. and she had to find her place before its too late. Sadly she was in no hurry, for she was not sure where she was and why and what made her start.

It was today that she suddenly recognised what had been her start point. Deja vu in a strange manner. But nothing is strange.  Its never a straight way, its a loop, a sequence which goes on and merges somewhere. The path is never the same, never different, not entirely round, but a mixture. It doesn't leads to goal, or realization or discoveries. It leads to nowhere, yet eveywhere, with few deja Vu's from time to time as if the path got merged to the trajectory of past. Deja Vu very normal, not at all strange. So it had been for her, today. What she recognized as her point of start. Deja Vu again..  

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Nature, Alcoholics and Education

Today we went for cleaning lakeside, under the initiative of Nature's Club IITB. Initially we cleared the weeds from butterfly garden which were grown all over and so taller that they were hiding the main plants beneath them. I wondered of nature and its unique ways of balance. Then we moved to boathouse to clean the bottles and plastics thrown all over. For those who are unaware, boathouse is the most beautiful place in campus with most enthralling view of lakeside, hiranandani, Renaissance and hostels nearby and the main road at a distance across the lake, litted by lights of vehicles m oving in a line, one after another. It is all so very magical and uplifting. Its there that I have spent some of the most amazing moments chatting with friends..

But this time my eyes opened to a different reality. All over plastic bottles lay in worst condition, plastic wrappers of eatables not just that glass bottles of alcohol,  broken in thousands of small pieces were also there, all over, in places were they can  easily hurt anyone. One look at the surroundings and I was filled with disgust for those who caused that havoc with the place..Just beside this huge accumulated garbage was a big dustbin, but guess what apparently breaking glasses and throwing plastic wrappers was more fun to these people.

Anyways so we started cleaning the place, a small patch took almost ten to fifteen minutes to clean. With gloves as well, twice I felt glass pieces biting into my fingers. That was a very angry moment for me. How much these kids, who are so called most brilliant lot of India, deserving the best institute and facilities, bright and intelligent, who entail such high esteem in society, can be so ridiculously insensitive to basic civic sense.
Wrappers of chwinggums lay in count of thousands  all over. You launch General Championships on energy conservation, you proclaim huge slogans on how concerned you are for the future of the country and this is what you end up doing at your leisure time??

You have numerous competitions, debates and endless talks for improving Indian society yet here you are,
ruining your very own campus, don't you care? You yourself are ruining it don't you see what you do? Next time you come to boathouse to relax just take note of what contribution you have in ruining the area.

I used to wonder why most of the tourist spots in India are so pathetic to visit since they are always overflowing with garbage. Blaming it on the Government and civic bodies that they don't do their job right. But Alas!!! if the most brilliant lot of India is like this-  nothing can help it!!! I have no words for anyone else...

If you enjoy drinking at beautiful places, go ahead, but why you need to break and shatter bottles, what kind of destructive, sadistic tendencies you need to satisfy to feel happy, and alive by dirting up the very place.

  Even if you, for some unknown reason, find it irresistible, why don't you try wrapping up what you  do once. Pick the pieces of bottles you have thrown across. Still if you feel like breaking it next time or every time, go ahead . But who gave you the right to spoilt this beautiful place. Why the rest all should bear with this infinite stupid rampage on your part..?

Comeon - No Gandhi is coming to save you this time. You are liable for your actions, clean your own mess
Nobody will create the world you want to live in. Its you who have to build it, work for it.  You want a clean beautiful India, stop these kind of acts ..

You say India is pathetic, you want to move abroad and settle? I say you are pathetic when you are here , so it is what you get. When you will be abroad you will mend your ways for sure, wherever you may go. Try doing the same on your land and it will treat you way better than what any foreign land can ever......    



Sunday, October 7, 2012

Is reality stranger than fiction or fiction stranger then reality .....

Is reality stranger than imagination or imagination stranger then reality .....!!
This is one question I really can't decide to be on which side. On one hand we have sci-fi movies which boasts of unimaginable creatures and planets with weird life etc.. n on other in real world such a strange coincidence game is in play..that one thing leads to another to be at some point when you reflect back...was it a destiny? Was it already written somewhere.....

         We marvel at the unique play of circumstances that make the beautiful moment..so mmuch is at stake..n so much comes together for one moment ...

Amazed...at the real world..wonder who creates this and who drives this..how is it so simple for that being to connect billions of life and interwine in unique unparallel ways........If it isn't divine then what is it...........

Monday, October 1, 2012

crisis is what makes you....

its the crisis which determines who you are...running away from it is not gonna help you in any manner..
face it, recognise it ...see what is it that you are afraid of..and then when you come most calmly out of it..u know your new infinite strength..you have no boundations..you have no limits..its your own self made depiction that bothers you..step out..n be alive..live your life..savor the world...things fall in place eventually..they always do..they happen for a reason..don't regret ever,  learn and grow rich with each experience...be the positivity you want in world, be the elegance you expect to get......


you have many things to be grateful for ...recollect the times when you were cared for, when it was least expected..may God bestow the right sense...

Nindak neare rakhiye...isn't rahiman was gr8..a jogi..the concept itself is so appealing...turn to the truth with right approach ..n sing along the melody of life....

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

enough joy to savor the little around,
enough courage to stand amidst raging crowd..
enough belief to stand the rising tide ,
enough patience to witness the day dawn...

is it not the way life should be...
is it not whats in built in our being
then why do we create havoc
on tiniest grounds
n y do we fail to smile n dance
on greatest treasures abound
what prevents our deepest expressions of love
what makes us stand n be lame
to be part of the crowd
who created this two existence
whose ideas is that we try to abide?

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Le Fabuleux Destin d Amelie Poulain ...



Whatever you say about Amelie it is less. Yes its a movie most dramatic yet most real of all...You feel like laughing out loud and  you smile all the time  to yourself thinking on how close it is to your own secret melodramatic portrayals...
As Amelie leaves it to test of time. if it leads to good she will help humanity else "too bad""..same is the story for u so many times...the deadly elongated portrayals of probable causes of things not on time as she planned and expected is outright funny

From the portrayals of childish Amelie trying to pass time by various amusing things, strawberry eating game esp. , to  the terror of her eyes with the notion that she is the reason behind numerous tragic happening's then her revenge with the one who deceived her in believing that,  to the grown up Amelie  with the shine of her eyes when she discovers all people smiling at the dark in movie theater and to  getting her way to all things  .

It all seems like a sweet game n you become a co-conspirator in her various mischief's and the good doer in her pursuits...you find a share of glory in all her little success and you pray for the things to get the right way... At last you feel the hesitance on her behalf and your success when all goes well
.. Loved the movie ...its pretty amazing movie and indeed a must watch!!!

11th Oct 13  - Rewatched this movie. This time what strikes out is the painter, the innovative ways of Amelie to get people do things, and an amazing imagination interwoven with reality. Time stands still, the world changes, the regularity is no-where close, which job, which promotion, which life, what turmoil, there's nothing left of it...its as if to fill the moments of your linear life, with bubble wraps, or the photo's - of the mystery man, who after all - isn't a dead-man after remembrance, but a mystery man, its the ghost of scary houses, who is after all a human, with touch and contact that can only convey love. There's nothing to be scared of. the demons of people and their nefarious acts - do almost come like a dragon towards the end, but yet wonderfully so - the imagination rules, though in form of cat - only to be ascertained moments later, its all your imagination, make it as beautiful, as you can...In love with this movie. It speaks some other language.. Sign language? Who is the protagonist here, the dwarf traveling the world, the retirement - not well taken? The bullied servant,
obsessed with lady Di's or the frustration of painter with the glass palace, only to be mesmerized at the end, that its a lovely fine emotion after all and nothing can take it away  from her, she can stand life. and more so, built it as per imagination.

No, no though it feels like, I should stop here, put it to rest, but I need to mention the dialogue where there are only two explanations of his being absent/10 minutes late then the set time of 4O'clk - its either he never got the message, the sweeper swept it off or he did got the message - an the long narration traversing worlds , only to reaffirm "she can't be upset because of a guy- who eats ... and " . This particular dialogue is just so awesome!!!

Since I am on it, also this time what strikes out, is the mention of stars - in different context, most prominently the rich people shooting of there ashes to the newly discovered stars - in aim to shine forever. Now this was absolute delight!! Couldn't help but smile at the bewildering thoughts..

The part where Amelie doubts and watches the end she meets, well its the one which gets the story forward. Also the discovery that changes her life forever. The one news, the one cap drops and the one brick to golden times and the devotion for a cause. Wow, simply awesome :)  !!!

Thursday, September 13, 2012

What is the image of Complex?

When I think of complex, something which just goes over my head, its some multidimensional space that fits perfectly in theories satisfies formulae and equations and blocks my head with all its complexity and take some to far away world. Some faculty mentions six dimensional space and Orthogonality of vectors therein with emphasis on what happens when Vector rotates; all I can visualize is a lone little vector  trying to rotate around a point. BY six dimension I see the three sides of room getting round and round to somehow give six perpendicular directions .. Oh God !! then lecturer says periodic trajectories are easy but Orthogonal is complicated  but yes in the neighborhood u can always study the properties easily. Its then when my mind wanders on the view of all natural objects I forget of vectors, equilibrium and rotation of non linear dynamical or linear - all seems so senseless . Why the heck - few theorems which are supposedly the greatest truths in mathematical formulations helping to decipher the real world..but to me it is just a round round rotating word and its all over making no sense..I give up with something which can never be understood -- its just something to struggle with till the last exam . Why don't you get a PC and show the vectors you want me to visualize , why just talk show its properties graphically -- its such a waste .. Non linear Space -- hope somebody understands you well to explain in the best way..

Saturday, September 8, 2012

A Million Dollar Baby...

There are some stories which come to an end, and some which don't. After a long time I watched a real good movie.."A Million Dollar Baby" . The fight/boxing based plot with various perspectives..a third eye view of why people love violence and  the quote that with heart you loose and to win you need to be undecipherable, you need to take a step back to hit the enemy when he least expects it and finally reiteration that always protect yourself.

The story most beautifully woven and aesthetically portrayed coudn't be portrayed more convincingly.
But till the last moment the hopeful spirit within me wanted her to survive..for some miracle and her to rise..Same way as we want to fight her last battle and tell the blue lady what she deserves!!
The moment of her 31st B'Day when she lashes out that okk I am 31 and only hopeful moment to me is when I am in boxing and you suggest I can't be champion unless I am 37 . Well is the calculated age and timeframe is the criterion..? Don't pity me, I just need a trainer...!!
? Then learn and listen to what you want, and I am fighter by instinct not by training..
To make enemies touch ground in first round, was her speciality.

Pretty amazing movie with no comeback..yet its perfect in every way..!!

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

My Fav Movie list




Ok so its long time now, here comes the list of my favorite movies
  1.  Life is Beautiful/ 
  2.  Paycheck 
  3.  Man from earth
  4.  Pink Panther 1
  5.  Provoked 
  6.  Just Like heaven
  7.  Serendipity
  8.  The Net
  9.  Ice Age 1 to 4
  10.  Kung fu panda
  11.  Despicable me
  12.  Smurfs
  13. Pretty Women
  14. Black Swan
  15. Back to future
  16. Princess Sara
  17. Midnight in Paris
  18. The Gift
  19. The Core
  20. Lake House
  21. Confessions of a shopaholic
  22. Musics and lyrics
  23. High school musical
  24. Erin Brockovich
  25. The Proposal
  26. Antitrust
  27. Beautiful Life
  28. Princess Diaries
  29. Da Vinci Code
  30. 21
  31. Illusionist
  32. Sleepless in Seattle
  33. Toy Story
  34. Walle-E
  35. up
  36. How to train your dragon 
  37. Ocean series
  38. Italian Job
  39. Madagascar
  40.  The Polar Express
  41. Cars       
  42. Nanny McPhee
  43. You have got a mail
  44. How to loose a guy in 10 days
  45. Angels and Demons
  46. The Prestige
  47. Ratatouille
  48. 12 ANGRY MEN
  49. Mr. and Mrs Smith
  50. Tomb Raider
  51. Salt
  52. NottingHill
  53. StepMom
  54. Source Code
  55. Megamind
  56. Limitless
  57. Harry Potter (all)
  58. Finding Nemo
  59. Its a wonderful life
  60. Home Alone
  61. Matrix
  62. Schindler's List
  63. The Notebook
  64. A Walk to remember
  65. Letters to Juliet
  66. Runaway Bride
  67. Titanic
  68. 51 first Dates
  69. 27 Dresses
  70. What happens in Vegas
  71. Armageddon
  72. Scent of a Woman
  73. The Holiday
  74. Sweet November
  75. If Only
  76. Pearl Harbour
  77. Made of Honor
  78. Enchanted
  79. Amadeus
  80. The Diving Bell and the butterfly
  81. Le Fabuleux Destin d Amelie Poulain
  82. Catch me if you can
  83. The Great Debators
  84. Chronicles of Narnia
  85. Around the world in 80 days
  86. Princess Sara
  87. Gone with the wind
  88. Gladiator
  89. My Fair Lady
  90. Terminal
  91. Wednesday
  92. 16 December
  93. Fight Club
  94. Rocky 1
  95. To Sir with love
  96. Karate Kid
  97. To kill a mockingbird
  98. Pursuit of Happiness
  99. Troy
  100. The shawshank redemption
  101. Fermat's room
  102. The great Dictator
  103. No Man's Land
  104. Two weeks later
  105. The Girl who lept through Time
  106. The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
  107. Dead Poet's Society
  108. My sassy Girl
  109. My little bride
  110. Bee 
  111. 16-Love
  112. Mr Singh Mrs Mehta  
  113. Stuck in Love
  114. 10 Things I hate about you 
  115. Minstrel Man 
  116. Curly Top 1935 
  117. Inception 
  118. The Japanese Wife 
  119. A million dollar baby
  120.  

And when u have infinite time at your disposal that anything will do -- watch these stupid movies in absence of anything else -
1) Bed of roses
2) Republic of love
3) Girl, Interrupted
4) Passport to love
5) Before sunrise
6) Before sunset
 7) The Perks of being a wallflower

Monday, September 3, 2012

Maturity... is it?

I will never understand this term called maturity. No I mean how mean, how cunning , how heartless you need to be to be mature...or wait lemme correct myself..how down to earth, how least expectant and how most giving and forgiving leads you to maturity...either way the truth resides..but maturity evades me. But as an observer I have seen myself failing on various fronts and wishing if only I was more mature..while the action of instant/instinct guides the way still. I have seen few real gentlemen/elegant ladies in my life.. they all inspired me to be great..to be mature..to be of the kind.. they are the real difference makers...they don't live to earn, earn to buy, buy to please, please to
exist. But they have something in them.. a substance which needs no fancy things, no 8 digit salaries.. its in their being.. their existence is priceless...
If maturity is being of the type.. I wish to be mature... !!!

Thursday, August 30, 2012

How Educated are you?? Don't tell the degree .....

So apparently today is the birth anniversary of "Maria Montessori", the creator of montessori system of 
education which is so very popular even today. Curious by the various hoardings and schools boasting of following it. Finally I followed the link of the google doddle  to check a few details of the program. Only thing which crowds my mind after reading that is- how strange that centuries have passed but still education system fails to evolve to the needs of time !! Interests of trade and maybe some system dominate the need and requirement of the era...

Well few days back I was watching firefly, a TV series based on the fact that the world is now into some future governed by machines and high tech gadgets.. the war, the warriors, the bad and good all characters 
are there...Just that now they don't fight for kingdoms or Gold..but the highest rated commodities are bare necessities of life..as in Food, medicines, water and protein....

Though I was supposed to enjoy it, as suggested by a friend that U'll like the series..yet it somehow frightened me...Every morning when I see stupid girls wasting away water..while they are brushing their teeth..unaware that while they need just two mugs of water...here they are wasting a consistent stream of water for two minutes..just because its easily available to you now???

Here a very good work is being done by atleast one center's student on the state of existence of rural people and they actually spent a fair amount of time researching and living , identifying and modelling that ..But its of concern that at the end of the day they don't have resources to transform the situation ..by helping in settingup water recharging pits all around the village....educating them on proper waste management...or create ample awareness to the need of it...
What is it that binds education to the walls of paper and thesis..why can't  it be practiced as it is learnt?


I am sure almost each of these super educated tech kids around must have written atleast fifteen times on the importance of conserving natural resources...yet here it is restricted, written and locked away in those papers ..and the resources are wasted as if it was all too theoretical to be real........

Having witnessed the water scarcity myself, I can imagine when they say " third world war will be for water" they are not kidding!! Then the question remains..why is nobody helping it out? Each year we still wait for the mercy of monsoon which soon passes and dread of summer days hangs on the heads of crores of people..wish I had a proper statistical figure for it ... 

When Montessori devised ways to read and learn using creative ways which included getting in touch with the immediate surroundings as in gardens, plants, pets, exercise and flower arrangement -- she must have thought how the learning is related to the environment. 

But here we are with years of education, still unaware of most of the names of the trees  around, unaware of birds that chirp or used to chirp all around, unaware of how to take care and use the resources judicially, unaware 
how to conserve resources, help construct water recharging pit, plant trees as per environment..best way to do it most efficiently...and yes we are the most educated of the lot...

Ofcourse we can code to give the virtual water reservoir..we can make flowers bloom on the virtual screen..we can produce the sound of somewhat chirp of birds by speech processing..atleast those in that field can..we can direct the useful tons of data messages across oceans...

But wait a minute..did I told you we are supposedly educated?? Educated !!!Does it even has some dictionary meaning ...of what exactly it refers to??

I have no idea...ofcourse I can google..and that's what we do..Google.. n I am sure there must be answers lying all across to these questions...but ofcourse I am lazy. oops our education demands me to code and debug something else..and thats all my job role is..isn't it?

Food? water? air? pollution free environment? greenery? - ofcourse somebody must be assigned these fields to study and correct for rest all...isn't it? otherwise how could a system so old...created by some unknown natural phenomenon - still survive in fairly good shape..despite the senseless conduct of ultra educated people. Poor uneducated people, do they still know how to sow the seeds  and produce food for the other educated beings?

 Well this has been on my mind from quite sometime -the wide gap between education and reality in society. So here am I jotting down tid-bits of it...but its too naive to be of any help..wish there was a person to devise and change the facet of education to make it closer to reality and to serve the purpose it is supposed to be serving, which is ofcourse not just providing job securities...but making people aware and better equipped to manage and live their life...

We will still manage to have food and water for most part of our life before we die..but what will happen next?? if education remains this way, I am not so sure...

Sunday, August 19, 2012

life at IITB

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Well before coming here I used to constantly search for a blog where I could get the details of life at IITB, well not exactly so generalized- but life of MTechs at IITB. I remember being disappointed at google somehow failing in listing what I was looking for. I wondered if the life at IITB is so great as my friends narrate so often and they seem short of words  always, then why the hell nobody wrote any details about it till date?

But as they say - "you learn in the process..." I learnt it now, after one year of living here.
Well somehow today I met someone who made me recollect this. And here I am writing of why and what are the details of the subject.

Well lemme start with my current scenario. I wake up late - bunking all 8:30 classes, as I can't wake up early.(ofcourse I used to ridicule such people- who can afford to sleep when such wonderful faculties are teaching such brilliant courses, but excuse me - I understand the students who do so - more than ever now n I second their perspective!!!) Post breakfast I go to my lab - sit there till 1:30Pm and then I come back for lunch to hostel. After all the drama I don't wanna go for this meeting or that class or this ...to my harmless roommate. I suddenly rise at around 2:15Pm and unceremoniously proceed to the meeting/class/lab.Then time runs away and suddenly I find myself looking at the clock - thinking if I can manage to get the evening tea..before the next class, somehow I manage to get that daily and by the time I am done with its already 8Pm, time for dinner and I am too tired. But yes there are two assignments pending, one paper to read and one presentation to make which is already delayed by ten days almost.
Somehow I go to lab again, try to do something of the pending list and come back to hostel at around 2am, ..with the list intact ofcourse :D

Well so what went wrong- four hours of absolute time for one assignment??Somehow my last moment BTech habit is prolonged here. With every assignment I take loud resolution - next time the day assignment is given I'll do it.. this is beginning of semester - when load is less. Ideally post mid-sem is the most hectic span. Yet somehow its like this. We look forward to weekends like anything - ofcourse thinking we will
finish all the work...n friday its masti mode(TGIF!!) saturday - all to sleep and sunday we struggle to
do some work..yet the gloomy evening of monday foreshadows and life goes on the same next week..
Wait then when is the work actually done?? Well if submission deadline is 12 then from 9 to 12..
if mid-sem is in afternoon then entire  morning and ofcourse the day before endsem...

I remember thinking I'll go to lakeside daily for evening stroll and would love walking on the sidewalks on the way to department. Well I go to lakeside only if some guest comes to see me or if I have to chat on the way. n regarding sidewalks - well what was the last time I remember doing that ?? Probably when it rained initially...who cares..!!Yet I love sitting in my lab- as my own space - doing whatever I want..
The inside story - I watch all TV Series regularly, I have not read newspapers in years, I watch TV only when I am at home(frequency of which is at max thrice a year). Then where does the time runs away?
At 3.am when I enter my room, I find my roommate in the same position, reading intently on her laptop...... ofcourse as usual I don't  utter a word and let her do her lot of work uninterrupted. n wonder some day I'll be that sincere.

Sometimes I sit at my place, don't go to lab in morning just to see - the existence of time ..and its then when all kinds of farzi articles are read, ideas originated ,blog written and life moves ahead..
Else between labs and four food breaks - life runs with the fuel of your own self and your priorities.
There are people who are God, of many fields - I believe they too run the same way. I see BTech girls often sitting in big groups discussing something or doing some assignment. Or narrating how they solved some quiz question- I laugh to myself thinking when was the last time I discussed a quiz?? well maybe before end sem.... ya I am not an ideal student by any standard..not that I don't want to. Just that the to do list is so long and time well don't know where it is ..so the things happen this way till now.. eventually everything gets done.
I even see few girls talking on phone and engrossed in the conversation. Wait what was the last time any call( except home) lasted for more than 20 minutes?? Probably some friend calling after aeons...otherwise - hey I'll call u back . End of story .period.

n ofcourse my mailbox floods with new activities/events/talks/workshop being organised almost
every single day --Yet I have attended only one talk till date. Rest I forget about, get involved in some class or simply don't go as nobody else is going in my friend circle.  I have seen some best moments in MoodI,
Techfest, Surbahar, PAF, PG Cult......infi musti and days of practice...I even enjoy going to Hindustani classical class, wish I could go to tabla class and sitar class, aim to purchase guitar asap.. and be active in drama group of college. Yet somehow it seems waste of time..which is anyway gone somehow...yet hope remains someday I'll be managed and do everything I wish well at time.....

Many of my friends who graduated this year-were nostalgic, missing the college already, when its just a month..while to me it seems I have been here for what seems like decades....yet the thought that a year from now - all my friends will be gone, makes me scared...I too want to go with them...
Yet I think somehow even that one year will pass and maybe then I too will be sad in leaving this beautiful
campus where we spent some of the best moments ever.....

PS-Hopefully will add to this first draft in coming days, the finer details - as of now let it be one more task in the to do list...

Its very difficult to categorize and devise a view to contain  the numerous aspects associated with the college life itself , forget about some specific institution. Yet we need to know every aspect of what we are stepping into, right!! So if I vaguely depict the categories here- its exam, non-exam, post-exam, mood-i/techfest/big event day versus others. As expected exam days are not so good or looked forward to , few days when IIT reads - n reads day and night, 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 am anytime you step out of your lab and there is a huge number of students spread across libraries/labs/corridors/stairs - reading/mugging/solving/discussing the concepts and questions for the exam next day.. soon when it passes its lukkha time. All the junta - getting ready and going for movies/restaurents and bakars till 3 or 4 am . Again no one really sleeps. Day of some big event - well if the students from across the country are there , and if you are not the organising team , you would prefer to stay at your room and watch movies/ play LAN games or do lukkha tp. till the time it can not be avoided and then you struggle to get in with your gang and hope that it should be worth the effort. About others well its chill the way you like day.

One single instance of number of things you can get involved in stands out for me to write. Well before being here - One single event used to define my day and then it was nothing else. Like what you did today - oh we went for shopping. we played or we went trekking etc etc. Here you can catch up with multitude of things within a  span of 12 hours. Like you can go for trekking on hilltop, enjoy the stroll across lakeside, come back catch up with friends on phone and chat with your roomie and then go back and finish your assignment/experiment and then listen to songs as the simulation in test bed goes on. And then you go play badminton/tt/LT and again work on some idea for research paper as you hym along the latest song being played. I just love this aspect of having so much on your platter a lot.

Though people come up with mix of things that they can balance at a time. Its always nice to dabble around and check on what all goes on in which area ...







Thursday, August 9, 2012

time in flight....


time in my hands
as it flies by
i jump along n catch it awhile
n it runs away again
 to its mystique land
where it  came from
n go all the way

will u ever stop..
wait just a while
n let some people catch up
make up for the lost time?

oh dear time
keeping us in ur trap
n flying all over
as moments bygone

memory restore the glory
of time long gone
in part, in tones
yet something amiss
the essence n presence
of the very own "time"
time -- the restless soul

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Life and its forms...

life is fresh, life is alive,
it shines, its bright
the shores out there
n the birds flying nearby
the new freshness
filled with new charm and grace

Was nature always so blissful
or was it feared
by the areas affected
washed away by rivers,
ravaged by volcanoes and storms 
wiping away in a single stroke
the entire regions n civilisations

Is it just the word and the connotation
is it just the poetry and the portrayal?

If not,
then what is love, calm and peace?
what are the rivers, mountains and streams
lakes and ponds and sea
flowers, gardens and bees
sky, galaxies and stars
nature in numerous forms
loved, revered and cherished
we stand to witness the grandoise
what is so much for these
lively forms
we watch each time, unfazed
In wonderment, hypnotised and amazed

what is so charismatic about this life
that we cling too so hard

life in numerous forms
like droplets on the leaves in rain
like the waves trembling on surface of lakes
like the melody in the chirp of birds
like fragrant wind in spring nights
like paths studded with petals n flowers
like the cool blue hue in clear sky
beauty around in numerous forms

what is it of life, that charms
whats more to it, than lifeforms?